Ally's Parents

Ally called her parents last night for another round of talks. It went about as well as can be expected.

I'm really upset with her parents. They have all the tools to do right by Ally in this and they haven't. I know they have a lot going on, but stuff happens when it happens, to us as well as them. They could have asked for more time. They can still ask for more time. They /should/ ask for more time! They obviously haven't done what they needed to before heaping their raw prejudices up on their daughter.

They hurt her. They hurt her. They hurt her, and they didn't have to. They hurt her, and they shouldn't have. They hurt her, and they should have known better. They aren't stupid, they aren't ignorant, they know where their resources are, they know how to ask for time. They fucked up, and they hurt her.

I am so /pissed/ at them.

Ally asks for so little from them, and she's asked for so little her whole life. And they can't be assed to read up on transgenderism /before/ telling her it's all in her head? Before talking to their spiritual guide to /actually/ see if this conflicts with doctrine or if they're grasping at straws? Before seeking advice or support from PFLAG?

So they think they know better than their daughter what's going on to her own body and mind? They think they can tell Ally that it's all in her head, that she can just wish it all away? They think they know better than Ally what transgenderism means? They don't! And they had better never say anything like that around me, or by their zombie god, I don't know what I will do.

I want to blame your religion /so much/, but it's only a fraction of what's causing you to act this way. You're using it as a shield, to rationalize why you "can't" support A. Let's face it, there's plenty of anti-woman, anti-gay nonsense in the RCC for you to grasp at. But you're being logically inconsistent. Our marriage won't be "invalidated," it's already invalid by RCC standards. You're unethically asking your daughter to hide that -- /and/ to suffer significantly in the process. You need to think long and hard about /why/ it's so important to you two that Ally pretend to be a man that you not only ignore her needs, but even ask her to act unethically.